Who is Melita Mickan?
Let’s begin with where I’ve come from…
It started 9 or 10 years ago with the breakdown of my marriage and we all know how messy that can be. It was. But it was also the beginning of a personal transformation that has enabled me to overcome many limitations and has led me to where I am and who I am today.
I used to be timid, lacked self-confidence in many areas, my self-esteem and self-worth were below poverty level and I was plagued with anxiety, depression and all the physical symptoms of chronic stress.
At the time I was a Christian and found that Christian principles and teachings as well as the support of my pastors and church friends helped immensely in my transformation. But what I learned also led me on a different path and looking back I can see that the methods I used and the teachings I gleaned from can be universally applied – without the Christian overtones.
Fast forward 4-5 years and another tragic life event occured which was the catalyst for the development of my business dreams – my sister was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer and died 4 months later.
Not to diminish the impact of that event, however, because I believe that there are always silver linings to be found behind every dark cloud, my sister’s illness and death prompted me to research natural ways to cure cancer (disclaimer: there isn’t really a cure, per se, but there have been miracles no-one can explain or prove and a lot of them involve radically altered nutrition and a combination of supplements and herbs) which led to studying Naturopathy.
Additionally, I was always very interested in personal development and could not think about the health of the body without also wanting to consider the health of the mind, especially considering my own transformative journey and mental health struggles. So, about a year into my course I enrolled to study for a Diploma of Life Coaching.
Both courses felt like I had found the thing I was meant to be doing all my life. As a “jack-of-all-trades” kind of person and a “helping” personality, I never knew what my passion was or my purpose for being… until then. It was like I’d found a great treasure, accompanied by trumpets, metophorical angels singing Hallellujah and the heavens opening up to reveal a new world of happiness and opportunity. It was joyous!
Those epiphanous moments, followed by the conception of my grand dream, was what propelled me through the next 4 years of gruelling study. I used every inner resource I had to push through anxiety from assignment deadlines and inherent perfectionist tendencies as well as other life stressors and ongoing physical ailments.
But I did it. I made it. I graduated and am now ready to use my knowledge and expertise to enable your personal transformation from stress to inner peace, naturally.
I have a lot of labels…
I want to be open and honest with youright from the beginning about who I am and what I stand for. It’s just my thing and I don’t want you to find out things about me that severely clash with what you believe because it may hinder the transformation process and our coaching relationship.
I am a 40+, pansexual, solo-polyamorous, relationship anarchist, Stoic, pantheist Druid. Whew! What a mouthful!
I tend to fall in love with and am sexually attracted to people, not gender. In saying that, I usually just call myself bisexual because it’s easier for everyone to comprehend.
I can fall in love with and have intimate relationships with multiple people at the same time with the consent and knowledge of everyone involved – and I don’t have to live with anyone (the solo part). Yes, it’s a thing. No, it’s not cheating or wrong (everyone who has a relationship with me knows about it and is ok with it). No, it doesn’t mean we have orgies or threesomes. And yes, jealousy can still be an issue but that’s my problem not theirs and vice versa. Open, transparent communication is of the highest importance.
A relationship philosophy rather than a style, RA holds that all relationships are of equal importance and that there are no set rules except those which we both agree on. The RA Smorgasbord is a useful tool for defining and negotiating the boundaries of any relational connection. Communication is also highly valued.