Who is Melita Mickan…
And what is Holistic Wellness Coaching, anyway?
Let’s begin with where I’ve come from…
It all started 9 or 10 years ago with the breakdown of my marriage (bit of a downer first up, but stay with me)…. we all know how messy that can be. It was. But. It was also the beginning of a personal transformation that enabled me to overcome many limitations and has led me to where I am and who I am today.
I used to be timid, lacked self-confidence in many areas, my self-esteem and self-worth were below poverty level and I was plagued with anxiety, depression and all the physical symptoms of chronic stress.
At the time, I was a Christian and found that Christian principles and teachings as well as the support of my pastors and church friends helped immensely in my transformation. But what I learned also led me on a different path and looking back I can see that the methods I used and the teachings I gleaned from can be universally applied – without the Christian overtones.
Fast forward 4-5 years and another tragic life event occured which was the catalyst for the development of my business dreams – my sister was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer and died 4 months later.
Not to diminish the impact of that event, however (because I believe that there are always silver linings to be found behind every dark cloud), my sister’s illness and death prompted me to research natural ways to cure cancer, which led to studying Naturopathy. Disclaimer: I didn’t find the magical cure for cancer and I don’t think there is one.
What I did find was that the human body is a very complex organism that is negatively and positively impacted by many things – genetics, man-made and natural chemicals via food and the environment, lifestyle habits, and emotional responses to external and internal stimuli including how you were raised, how you think, your personality, how you relate to others, how others treat you, etc.
I had always been very interested in personal development and, due to those last factors I mentioned, I could not think about the health of the body without also wanting to consider the health of the mind, especially considering my own transformative journey and mental health struggles. So, about a year into my course I enrolled to study for a Diploma of Life Coaching.
Both courses felt like I had found the thing I was meant to be doing all my life. As a “jack-of-all-trades” kind of person and a “helping” personality, I never knew what my professional passion was or my purpose for being… until then. It was like I’d found a great treasure, accompanied by trumpets, metophorical angels singing Hallellujah and the heavens opening up to reveal a new world of happiness and opportunity. It was joyous!
Those epiphanous moments, followed by the conception of my grand dream, was what propelled me through the next 4 years of gruelling study. I used every inner resource I had to push through anxiety from assignment deadlines and inherent perfectionist tendencies as well as other life stressors and ongoing physical ailments.
But I did it. I made it. I graduated and am now ready to use my knowledge and expertise to enable your personal transformation from stress to inner peace, naturally.
I have a lot of labels…
I want to be open and honest with youright from the beginning about who I am and what I stand for. It’s just my thing and I don’t want you to find out stuff about me that severely clashes with what you believe because it may hinder the transformation process and our coaching relationship.
I am a 40+, pansexual, solo-polyamorous, relationship anarchist, Stoic, pantheist Druid. Whew! What a mouthful!
Haven’t heard/seen any of those words before? Then please read on (each heading is a link to more detailed info)…
I tend to fall in love with and am sexually attracted to people, not gender. In saying that, I usually just call myself bisexual because it’s easier for everyone to comprehend.
I can fall in love with and have intimate relationships with multiple people at the same time with the consent and knowledge of everyone involved – and I don’t have to live with anyone (the solo part). Yes, it’s a thing. No, it’s not cheating or wrong (everyone who has a relationship with me knows about it and is ok with it). No, it doesn’t mean we have orgies or threesomes. And yes, jealousy can still be an issue but that’s my problem not theirs and vice versa. Open, transparent communication is of the highest importance.
A relationship philosophy rather than a style, RA holds that all relationships are of equal importance and that there are no set rules except those which we both agree on. The RA Smorgasbord is a useful tool for defining and negotiating the boundaries of any relational connection. Communication is also highly valued.
Stoicism is an ancient Greek philosophy which holds virtue (such as wisdom, temperence, patience, etc.) as the highest good. A lot of Christian teachings are based on Stoic teachings. So, through studying the Bible and the life of Jesus’, I had been learning and practicing Stoicism without even knowing it! I was very happy to discover this after leaving Christianity. I can now study ancient Stoic works from Epictitus, Marcus Aurelius and Seneca and base my philosophy on their virtuous teachings and practices without having an external power threatening me with eternal damnation. LOL
I believe that everything in the universe is interconnected via an underlying, unifying energy. I believe all of nature, including ourselves, is divine. However, because of my Christian upbringing and in opposition to a couple of the tenets of the WPM (see heading link), I do not discount the concept of an afterlife and that the universe as a whole may exhibit a type of consciousness that exerts its effects on us all – depending on the energy we project towards it.
More of a spiritual path rather than a religion, Druidry reveres nature and its seasons, and holds a special place for trees. Ritual is important to most Druids but I could not adopt the practices – they were too far removed from my experience of reality. However, I am a member of the Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids but consider myself a Hedge (solitary) Druid. I rarely celebrate the 8 significant seasons because I find it too confusing as the Northern traditions are opposite for those of us living south of the equator. If I do perform a ritual I don’t dress up in robes either – too weird and incongruent with the weather and my modern sensibilities.
I also believe in astrological personality profiling – and it’s a lot more complicated than a simple sun sign but a lot more telling than other personality tests! A full birth chart can help you to discover your individual traits, why you respond to things the way you do, and your weaknesses and strengths. You can find your own personal birth chart HERE where you will need to enter your date, time and place of birth.
Where I’m headed…
My Dreams and Goals